Moving beyond thought barriers to create the life you really want, in theory sounds uncomplicated. Simply identify the mindsets that are standing in your way, document them and when you have a negative thought or can’t arrive at a solution to your current problem, reference the mindsets you need to overcome and change your thoughts.
If only it were so easy. It takes practice, persistence, new knowledge and grace to even begin to identify what is holding you back and how to address the toughest issues you face. One of my favorite ways to accomplish this feat is to find a great book, write notes and then reference them continually. After reading hundreds of books, I believe some learning and positive processing has occurred. However, the act of reading and reflecting on constructive written material is a habit that can never cease if you really want to change your life.
Last year I purchased a book, entitled: The Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer, which aimed to help you unlock the sources of destructive energy fluctuations in your life and to support you in understanding how to relieve yourself from unproductive thought patterns. In my first read of the book, I found myself unable to bridge the gap between the material and my everyday life. I set the book aside, but continued to feel pulled to it. Over the last year, I have now read it about four times and I think it is finally sinking in. That being said, I wanted to share a few of the concepts I learned to help spark ideas for positive thought changes as well as inspire you to read the book.
You really only have one choice in life, to be happy or not.
It’s easy to be happy when things are going well, but you must vow to be happy no matter what happens. If you want to commit to this vow you need to let go of the thought that you must have certain conditions to be happy. It is within your power to identify and have gratitude for all the wonderful things in your life, rather than the things that haven’t shown up yet.
The benefit of being happy is that your heart stays open and energy flows in much more easily, enabling you to enjoy all your experiences more deeply. The key to this behavior is being able to discipline yourself when negative situations present themselves. You can’t always control life, but you can affirm that you know that feeling unhappy about the situation will only serve to close your heart and lessen your energy.
The only way to find peace and contentment is to stop thinking about yourself.
To be free of your problems, you must be willing to objectively observe your problems instead of getting lost in them. This principle is about accepting the reality of the situation and then moving confidently forward without judging yourself or the circumstances. You must distance yourself from the constant assessment of why something or someone should be different in the world.
When you let go of trying to change the outside world and instead determine how this setback, person etc. can actually redirect your life for the better, you will be free. I so often see this concept come to life at work, people are frustrated with how others perceive their work and let their anger build up into resentment instead of understanding how to move forward positively, in the end only hurting themselves.
In order to grow you must give up the struggle to remain the same, and learn to embrace change at all times.
We all have inner thorns, issues and problems, which are deep-rooted and can control each part of our lives. If there is something unsettling in you, you have two choices. You can either compensate for the issue by working through external means or you can remove the “thorn” and not focus your life around it.
If you want to be free of these thorns you have to be aware of when you feel their pain, allow the pain to pass through you and then refuse to get absorbed into the hurt.
I have experienced this concept too many times. I’ve always been challenged by the fear of speaking in front of others. I’ve known this for so long that I have forced myself since around the age of 14 into situations where I need to speak publically. The more I resist and fear speaking the more I have to compensate for the thorn, over preparation, sleepless nights and an uninspired presentation. The more I let myself feel the pain, accept it and stop judging myself, the better everything flows and the more I feel empowered.
You experience life through your heart
Your heart controls your energy. It can either restrict or allow the flow of energy passing through. As you perceive the world, you either let the energy of that perception flow through your heart or you resist it. The more you don’t let an experience flow through you, the more you block other (more positive) experiences from entering your life. Your mind then works to alleviate the blockage through excessive problem solving, which drains you and makes you feel unsettled. Then the blockage goes to your heart, making you feel the emotions of the blockage.
When you listen to your heart (i.e. intuition) you can often resolve the blockages. If you refuse to listen, the blockage continues to cycle and go deeper. At times you may think you’re past it, but certain queues may yield deep sensitivities to the original experience, when you least expect it.
Nevertheless, you have the ability to let things pass through you. The gifts you receive for allowing the experience to pass through you includes deeper love and connections to others, peace and vitality.
Ultimately all these concepts are interrelated. They involve learning to accept what is and how to discipline your mind to transcend your problems and live in happiness. Yes, bad things happen to good people, but often times we fail to see how much more painful we are making the experience by resisting it, holding on to it, overanalyzing it etc. Today I challenge you to find one experience you are ready to let go of to let the energy of life flow through you more freely.