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Having Goals and Letting Go

Posted on Posted in Fear Dissolving, FOCUS on the NOW

One of the best parts about life is being able to set goals, create plans and work toward achieving the vision that you set for yourself.  Goals provide the energy to keep getting out of bed in the morning and the momentum to push through the difficult times when you would rather give up.  They shape our lives into the masterpieces we envisioned and lay the foundation for the legacy that is our life.  The fact that goals and ambitions can do this for human beings truly makes them creators and powerful futuristic beings.  The downside of these goals is that they can often cause a lot of anxiety and letting them go can lead to a breakdown if we hold onto them too tightly when things have changed and we need to readjust our goals.

Our lives run on cycles, evolving almost every three years, according to the most recent e-book I’m reading titled “The incredible Money Secret Money Machine.”  I always believed this to be true when I was a kid, cycling from junior high to senior high and from college to post college.  However, somewhere in my mid-20s I felt like life was becoming more of a continuum with little change between the years.   Reflecting on the time period from 22-32, I realize there were many cycles I went through.  There were times I was more focused on building friendships and other times I was focused on my career and at last times where I was just getting through the week.  Unexpected boulders rolled down the hill, knocking me off my track, requiring me to readjust my ideals and plans.

The more I fought these boulders and didn’t relinquish the reins to the grander plan, the more difficult things became.  I remember when I moved to Cincinnati and wanted more than anything to save for a home and establish a financial foundation and my now husband was unemployed for six months.   In hindsight, I wish I would have “let go” and trusted the ultimate plan more.  Looking back the goal of that time period was to build the foundation of my most important relationship, the one with my husband. We were not on the fast track of attaining the goal I had set out, but worrying about that fact only served to steal all the positive energy that was at play in our new experience.

In the end life is a series of navigational changes along the way to your goals.  Moreover, your goals may change as your exposure to life increases.  What you thought you wanted at 22 can be entirely different than what your ideals are at 42.  Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to take a weekend to reflect on what you are working toward, where you are investing your energy and ask yourself, is this still the life I want to create for myself?  Are the costs worth the benefits?  Have I been paying the costs too long without reaping the benefits of what I am working so hard to achieve.  As always, only you know the answer to those questions and can correct the course of your life to optimize the equation of your life energy and its output of enjoyment.

Taking an honest look at what you really want out of life and how you are working to get there will always reap dividends.  After you determine how your goals have changed, think about how you use your free time and how you can adjust it to build toward what you want rather then what you have been doing.  Little things like cutting out facebook surfing to research classes you can take or businesses you can start can fuel your goal creating machine and help you rediscover new terrain to create the life you want to live.