“Endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines, but it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes.” – Buddha
As a blog writer one of my main goals is to inspire others toward action that helps them live their best life and break through the barriers that are holding them back. That said I always remain very positive and perhaps somewhat idealistic in my entries.
The reality is that even for positive folks, who aim to help others connect to their highest selves, tough weeks occasionally present themselves. This week is one of those weeks for me. Looking at my calendar last Friday afternoon instilled dread in my heart, which served to shadow my normal weekend joy. After a weekend of half-hearted relaxation, I woke up on Monday with my cold from the previous week back in full force and a headache on Tuesday. Needless to say the week was rough and didn’t feed my soul.
Looking back on the experience of the week, I know I made one critical error. I looked upon the upcoming week with angst rather than positive anticipation of what I would learn, experience and receive in return for my efforts. I choose to feel overwhelmed, depressed and unmotivated for the week to come. As a result I received what I expected and now live to tell the story of learning my own lesson once again.
In Buddha’s insightful quote he shares that endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines. In interpreting his insight, I realize that the endurance of disciplining your mind to frame your choices in a way that serves you rather than hurts you is the tough part. As human beings we have an amazing capacity for intellectual and physical triumphs; however we often sell ourselves short of our peak performance because it is difficult to consistently process our choices in the most positive light.
As human magnets, we must come to the realization that even if we have challenges ahead of us or activities to participate in that we may not necessarily enjoy, we brought these experiences to ourselves for our soul’s growth and to reach our ultimate goals. Getting very clear about what our goals are and why we are making choices to endure the tough stuff enables us to understand and appreciate it as it enters our lives.
For those challenging circumstances that we do have control over, i.e. job demands, family issues, money matters etc. ask yourself the following questions to link the action with the goal and re-frame the context for a more positive experience and acceptance:
- What is the benefit to my long term goals?
- Why am I fighting this and not accepting it as part of my journey?
- Is the return on this activity worth it to me?
- Is there something else that I would rather be working toward?
At times we may not be able to interpret why we are going through a challenge that we don’t feel is necessary to our goals. These obstacles are strengthening mechanisms that support you in gaining the capability to become your highest self. You may not be able to answer the above questions, for challenges like illnesses and accidents. Rather, these experiences are part of the mystery of life and don’t often show their purpose until much later.
What I encourage you to do is to understand the power you have to frame your week in the most affirmative way possible. Ask yourself the above questions if you find this challenging. Perhaps it’s time for a change in your journey or a reconsideration of what is most important to you. However, more often than not, it’s time for a readjustment of our attitude toward our activities and recognition of the rewards of our hard work.